Comments on: Where Do I Go From Here http://twentyorsomething.com/2009/10/08/where-do-i-go-from-here/ tonight we drink to youth. Wed, 28 Jul 2010 02:01:49 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Sarah http://twentyorsomething.com/2009/10/08/where-do-i-go-from-here/comment-page-1/#comment-5024 Sarah Mon, 26 Oct 2009 01:26:15 +0000 http://twentyorsomething.com/?p=1770#comment-5024 I get really frustrated along with you that just as you seem to finally have everything you wanted, it turns out that maybe all of those everythings have become too much of a good thing. Someone else mentioned it above: maybe it boils down to deciding what you really love and pursuing that. If the puppies make you happy, help them. If the writing makes you happy, keep it up. If nothing makes you happy, find something that does. But remember, you were frustrated when you had nothing. Now you have everything. I get really frustrated along with you that just as you seem to finally have everything you wanted, it turns out that maybe all of those everythings have become too much of a good thing.

Someone else mentioned it above: maybe it boils down to deciding what you really love and pursuing that. If the puppies make you happy, help them. If the writing makes you happy, keep it up. If nothing makes you happy, find something that does. But remember, you were frustrated when you had nothing. Now you have everything.

]]> By: Walter http://twentyorsomething.com/2009/10/08/where-do-i-go-from-here/comment-page-1/#comment-4817 Walter Fri, 09 Oct 2009 05:35:12 +0000 http://twentyorsomething.com/?p=1770#comment-4817 There comes a certain point in our life where we have to decide where we want to go. I we have dreams and want to achieve it we must be ready to take the responsibilities of its consequences. We cannot have it all, we need to choose. However, everything has its balance. We only need to find it. Instead of focusing on our problems we need to focus on solutions, for in it lies the balance we are looking for. Follow your dreams Susan, it's the best thing you can give to your self. And don't be overwhelmed, observe and learn from your errors. :-) There comes a certain point in our life where we have to decide where we want to go. I we have dreams and want to achieve it we must be ready to take the responsibilities of its consequences. We cannot have it all, we need to choose.

However, everything has its balance. We only need to find it. Instead of focusing on our problems we need to focus on solutions, for in it lies the balance we are looking for.

Follow your dreams Susan, it’s the best thing you can give to your self. And don’t be overwhelmed, observe and learn from your errors. :-)

]]> By: Sam http://twentyorsomething.com/2009/10/08/where-do-i-go-from-here/comment-page-1/#comment-4814 Sam Fri, 09 Oct 2009 00:52:57 +0000 http://twentyorsomething.com/?p=1770#comment-4814 Susan-To go from boredom, free time, and frustration to the exact opposite is a difficult transition. I think you were so excited to be done with all of that annoying stuff, that you took on a lot to make sure you never had those feelings again. Just remember that transition is a process and achieving balance doesn't happen overnight. Appreciate all that you have, even if it's a little too much :) Susan-To go from boredom, free time, and frustration to the exact opposite is a difficult transition. I think you were so excited to be done with all of that annoying stuff, that you took on a lot to make sure you never had those feelings again. Just remember that transition is a process and achieving balance doesn’t happen overnight. Appreciate all that you have, even if it’s a little too much :)

]]> By: We CAN have it all – just get out your calendar « bigger than me http://twentyorsomething.com/2009/10/08/where-do-i-go-from-here/comment-page-1/#comment-4813 We CAN have it all – just get out your calendar « bigger than me Thu, 08 Oct 2009 23:01:56 +0000 http://twentyorsomething.com/?p=1770#comment-4813 [...] to have it all, and most of us believe we can at least come close to having it all. The result? We go after it all at the same time or freeze up because we feel like the one we choose first will be designated more [...] [...] to have it all, and most of us believe we can at least come close to having it all. The result? We go after it all at the same time or freeze up because we feel like the one we choose first will be designated more [...]

]]> By: Meghan http://twentyorsomething.com/2009/10/08/where-do-i-go-from-here/comment-page-1/#comment-4812 Meghan Thu, 08 Oct 2009 17:03:26 +0000 http://twentyorsomething.com/?p=1770#comment-4812 Isn't it crazy how life can turn a complete 180 in such a short time? I can sympathize with the feeling of wanting to do everything (and, of course, be good at everything you do at the same time) and the intense frustration that appears when you finalize realize you can't. It hurts. It feels like you've failed at something. It forces you to re-examine your commitments, your goals and yourself. It is definitely not pleasant, but you will get through it and you will be the better for it. I think you've taken two very important steps: 1. realizing you're over-committed and you can't possibly handle it all. 2. beginning to examine what you love about each area of your life you're committed to. The hard part comes next: truly scrutinizing how much you REALLY love something. If you do this completely open-heartedly and with an open mind, I'll bet you'll be surprised at what you find. My only words of advice are to make sure you don't lose yourself in the process - if you're not taking care of yourself, everything else will suffer. Only when you're functioning at your best can you figure out what's best for you. Isn’t it crazy how life can turn a complete 180 in such a short time? I can sympathize with the feeling of wanting to do everything (and, of course, be good at everything you do at the same time) and the intense frustration that appears when you finalize realize you can’t. It hurts. It feels like you’ve failed at something. It forces you to re-examine your commitments, your goals and yourself. It is definitely not pleasant, but you will get through it and you will be the better for it.

I think you’ve taken two very important steps: 1. realizing you’re over-committed and you can’t possibly handle it all. 2. beginning to examine what you love about each area of your life you’re committed to.

The hard part comes next: truly scrutinizing how much you REALLY love something. If you do this completely open-heartedly and with an open mind, I’ll bet you’ll be surprised at what you find.

My only words of advice are to make sure you don’t lose yourself in the process – if you’re not taking care of yourself, everything else will suffer. Only when you’re functioning at your best can you figure out what’s best for you.

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