Comments on: I’m No Super[wo]man http://twentyorsomething.com/2009/07/02/i%e2%80%99m-no-superwoman/ tonight we drink to youth. Tue, 07 Sep 2010 12:10:56 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: twenty(or)something » Blog Archive » Never Stop Believing (Part 1) http://twentyorsomething.com/2009/07/02/i%e2%80%99m-no-superwoman/comment-page-1/#comment-5377 twenty(or)something » Blog Archive » Never Stop Believing (Part 1) Tue, 15 Dec 2009 16:45:07 +0000 http://twentyorsomething.com/?p=1377#comment-5377 [...] if you will. The things that affect me, personally, are fair game. I’ll talk about my flaws, my weaknesses, my mistakes; I’ll talk about my fears, my insecurities, and feeling lost because, for me, [...] [...] if you will. The things that affect me, personally, are fair game. I’ll talk about my flaws, my weaknesses, my mistakes; I’ll talk about my fears, my insecurities, and feeling lost because, for me, [...]

]]> By: Susan Pogorzelski - admin http://twentyorsomething.com/2009/07/02/i%e2%80%99m-no-superwoman/comment-page-1/#comment-3075 Susan Pogorzelski - admin Tue, 07 Jul 2009 03:13:00 +0000 http://twentyorsomething.com/?p=1377#comment-3075 Corvida: It was such a pleasure to talk with you the other afternoon! And I know we kind of discussed this and our situations as well, but I hope to reiterate what I believe -- I think support systems are everywhere, just going by different names: family, friends, community, networks. I've found support systems in the most surprising (and sometimes unlikely) of places, as I think you and I both discovered ;) I don't have all of the answers, clearly, though I wish I did for you. Maybe the idea really is to keep pushing on, as you say, to keep hanging in there. Maybe you take what people can give and use that to build your strength, your motivation. I'm not sure, as I'm still discovering this for myself, still learning. But I do know that there are people there to help you along the way if you need it -- even it if it's just in a simple phone call. Maybe, sometimes, someone just being there is really all we need. Thanks for your comment, Corvida. I hope everything works out and wish you the very, very best! Corvida: It was such a pleasure to talk with you the other afternoon! And I know we kind of discussed this and our situations as well, but I hope to reiterate what I believe — I think support systems are everywhere, just going by different names: family, friends, community, networks. I’ve found support systems in the most surprising (and sometimes unlikely) of places, as I think you and I both discovered ;)

I don’t have all of the answers, clearly, though I wish I did for you. Maybe the idea really is to keep pushing on, as you say, to keep hanging in there. Maybe you take what people can give and use that to build your strength, your motivation.

I’m not sure, as I’m still discovering this for myself, still learning. But I do know that there are people there to help you along the way if you need it — even it if it’s just in a simple phone call. Maybe, sometimes, someone just being there is really all we need.

Thanks for your comment, Corvida. I hope everything works out and wish you the very, very best!

]]> By: Susan Pogorzelski - admin http://twentyorsomething.com/2009/07/02/i%e2%80%99m-no-superwoman/comment-page-1/#comment-3074 Susan Pogorzelski - admin Tue, 07 Jul 2009 03:03:01 +0000 http://twentyorsomething.com/?p=1377#comment-3074 Sam: You have been such a wonderful support and a great, dear friend. I hope you know that every comment and conversation is taken to heart and appreciated, and all that you've done for me is a thousand times returned. Regarding your comment, I think you nail what has been the hardest part for me with this line: "When you’re so used to giving and being there for others, you don’t really think about a time when you might need the roles reversed." That's exactly it. I love this role -- I wouldn't willingly put myself in it if I didn't genuinely want to help people and see them happy. But I think there also comes a time where we have to help ourselves, and part of that is by accepting the help and support from others. Which is easier said than done, as I've found, but so important. I hope I'll continue to recognize this when I need it. I do know, now, that I have that back-up when that time comes. Thanks for the comment, Sam. And thanks for everything. Sam: You have been such a wonderful support and a great, dear friend. I hope you know that every comment and conversation is taken to heart and appreciated, and all that you’ve done for me is a thousand times returned.

Regarding your comment, I think you nail what has been the hardest part for me with this line: “When you’re so used to giving and being there for others, you don’t really think about a time when you might need the roles reversed.”

That’s exactly it. I love this role — I wouldn’t willingly put myself in it if I didn’t genuinely want to help people and see them happy. But I think there also comes a time where we have to help ourselves, and part of that is by accepting the help and support from others. Which is easier said than done, as I’ve found, but so important.

I hope I’ll continue to recognize this when I need it. I do know, now, that I have that back-up when that time comes. Thanks for the comment, Sam. And thanks for everything.

]]> By: Susan Pogorzelski - admin http://twentyorsomething.com/2009/07/02/i%e2%80%99m-no-superwoman/comment-page-1/#comment-3073 Susan Pogorzelski - admin Tue, 07 Jul 2009 02:52:09 +0000 http://twentyorsomething.com/?p=1377#comment-3073 Elisa: I still love your post on spinning -- it's probably the one that has struck the deepest chord with me because there are so many ways I can relate to it. When you're spinning, you're on your own. And you know that eventually you're going to tumble over and lose your balance -- it's maybe inevitable. But what I'm learning lately is that there will be people there to catch you. And it's ok to let them. Who knew? I love your comment, Elisa, and as much as I hate that we seem to be running parallel, as you say, because of what that means, I'm grateful that there are others who can relate. I especially love this line: "All I know is that life seems to be a constant set of challenges and adversities, and what separates us from the mediocrity of it all is our ability to rise up and accept those things head on." There is so much truth and wisdom in those words. I really think that says it all. Thanks for your thoughts! Elisa: I still love your post on spinning — it’s probably the one that has struck the deepest chord with me because there are so many ways I can relate to it. When you’re spinning, you’re on your own. And you know that eventually you’re going to tumble over and lose your balance — it’s maybe inevitable. But what I’m learning lately is that there will be people there to catch you. And it’s ok to let them. Who knew?

I love your comment, Elisa, and as much as I hate that we seem to be running parallel, as you say, because of what that means, I’m grateful that there are others who can relate. I especially love this line:

“All I know is that life seems to be a constant set of challenges and adversities, and what separates us from the mediocrity of it all is our ability to rise up and accept those things head on.”

There is so much truth and wisdom in those words. I really think that says it all.

Thanks for your thoughts!

]]> By: Susan Pogorzelski - admin http://twentyorsomething.com/2009/07/02/i%e2%80%99m-no-superwoman/comment-page-1/#comment-3072 Susan Pogorzelski - admin Tue, 07 Jul 2009 02:48:21 +0000 http://twentyorsomething.com/?p=1377#comment-3072 Harl: I appreciate you taking the time to comment on this post. It's funny that you say that you recognized a strength growing by the end of the post because I've noticed that trend with me; it's pretty much why I have the blog...I'm filled with heavy emotion but by the time I'm finished writing, I can make sense of it. I have hope. Admittedly, that heavy emotion stayed with me longer than I expected this time, and it took me awhile to understand where it was coming from and thus get over it. But I did. I have. I've learned that I can lean on others, and that's not a point of weakness, but maybe just a redistribution of strength. Harl, I can't tell you how much I appreciated this comment, your thoughts, and your support. Thanks for your words and thanks, always, for your friendship. Harl: I appreciate you taking the time to comment on this post. It’s funny that you say that you recognized a strength growing by the end of the post because I’ve noticed that trend with me; it’s pretty much why I have the blog…I’m filled with heavy emotion but by the time I’m finished writing, I can make sense of it. I have hope.

Admittedly, that heavy emotion stayed with me longer than I expected this time, and it took me awhile to understand where it was coming from and thus get over it. But I did. I have. I’ve learned that I can lean on others, and that’s not a point of weakness, but maybe just a redistribution of strength.

Harl, I can’t tell you how much I appreciated this comment, your thoughts, and your support. Thanks for your words and thanks, always, for your friendship.

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